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By Samar Minallah | News & Politics | Published 16 years ago

In a few elements of NWFP, the customized of sar paisa is common. The bridegroom, to be able to marry, will pay a big sum of cash into the girl’s moms and dads. This custom transforms her into an object of financial value, devoid of feelings or emotions. This living, breathing item of value can in fact be sold and re-sold for a greater price — without having a family’s ‘honour’ being at risk. In reality, the greater her value, the greater ‘honour’ her household gains.

Maimoona from Parachinar wound up in Kohat prison whenever she declined become juggled from a single guy to a different for a greater cost. She had been sold off to her relative for 50,000 rupees in wedding. Meanwhile, her paternal relative got an offer of one-and-a-half lakh rupees, which he easily accepted on the behalf without her permission.

The only choice kept before Maimoona would be to escape together with her spouse. Having no written evidence of their appropriate wedding, they finished up in Kohat prison. Maimoona’s brothers and cousins that are paternal attempting their utmost to have her out from the prison so that you can regain their lost honour and cash.

Niyaz Khela, who’s in her own fifties that are late belongs to Karak. She ended up being downered off in wedding to a person much older to her. Nevertheless in her teenagers then, her spouse would often beat her over trivial issues. So that you can getting away from life of misery, she eloped with another guy who she had met while she had opted to fetch water.

Being forced to choose from the chances of being killed and residing a full life of torment with a person who does continue steadily to mistreat her, Niyaz Khela find the previous.

Barefoot, without any product control, she, along with her paramour, hid when you look at the crevices of this tough hills of Karak, dodging the killers that chased her. “The gunshots failed to frighten me personally because we preferred death to going back to an abusive spouse, ” says Niyaz Khela. But, after couple of years of hiding, Niyaz Khela’s husband that is second to pay for 10,000 rupees to her ex-husband, that has been double the quantity initially compensated by 1st husband as ‘bride price. ’ That way not just had been their pride elated but his missing ‘honour’ ended up being additionally regained by means of monetary revenue.

In Karak, a married girl has a greater cost available in the market because her ex-husband, if alive, needs to be paid for their monetary loss. Unless, he could be offered a greater cost than exactly just just what he previously initially covered the girl, he gets pighore (taunt) through the community.

The male perpetrator is usually killed and the woman sent back to the parents, who try once again to marry her off if money is not paid as compensation. The amount of money they get from her 2nd wedding is compensated down to her aggrieved ex-husband.

Therefore, right right right here, more males are killed in such offences because a female, regardless if she actually is divorced or abandoned because of the spouse, nevertheless has a cost available in the market. The person can be acquitted if he will pay plenty of cash as payment into the party that is aggrieved. Consequently honour, in this context, is connected more to wealth than to one’s behaviour that is moral.

As Niyaz Khela confirms, ‘Moozh watan kay topak aao paisa balaa dee, ’ (inside our town firearms and cash are giants! ). It’s been a lot more than four years since Niyaz Khela abandoned her town and settled in Islamabad being a financial migrant. Her 2nd spouse left her for the next girl who he purchased at a price that is reasonable.

Surviving in a ghetto that is small exercising her traditions in a international land, Niyaz Khela had to work hard to marry down her three kids, all on the very very own. She worked as being a labourer, making bricks when it comes to high-rise buildings of Islamabad to pay for for a bride for just one of her sons. On her younger son, a bride was got by her in swarra (change of females) being a trade together with her very very very own child.

It’s interesting that while honour are tarnished with a small slide of behavior, customs like swarra and sar paisa, where a lady is employed being a object of value or a musical instrument to build alliances, bring honour. Niyaz Khela, like a number of other Pukhtuns, does not have any choice but to check out the traditions her forefathers practiced. In cases where a Pakhtun does not work relating to Pakhtunwali, she or he is not any longer considered a dhroon Pakhtun (an honourable Pakhtun). It is extremely difficult also for an extremely gallant Pakhtun to handle the pighore that is venomous. The best way to free oneself from the wrath of pighore would be to show his/her allegiance to ‘Pakhunwali’(the Pakhtun rule of conduct), which may also be in the cost of someone’s life.